Q: How do I cheat and do it right?
A: Delete any numbers that has phones you. Delete any numbers you have dialed. Don’t save the numbers on your phone. Delete any sms’s you have sent or gotten. Put on ringer ID’s on the numbers if you have saved them. Delete any emails you have sent or gotten. Don’t leave your phone laying around for prying eyes.
A: Delete any numbers that has phones you. Delete any numbers you have dialed. Don’t save the numbers on your phone. Delete any sms’s you have sent or gotten. Put on ringer ID’s on the numbers if you have saved them. Delete any emails you have sent or gotten. Don’t leave your phone laying around for prying eyes.
Don’t keep any gifts you’ve gotten around your partner. Don’t keep voicemail on your phone. Don’t let your mistress know where you stay – take her to a hotel.
Remember your lies and keep it simple you don’t want to have a web of lies and not know what you lied to who and when. Don’t tell anybody your dirty little secret especially your friends – things have a way of coming out. Use a different unknown number to contact your mistress. Don’t take your mistress to the usual places you go or where people might recognize you. Always wear a condom or make sure your mistress is on contraception – if your mistress gets pregnant your games over! Never mention your partner or mistress’ name in front of the other. Never get attached to your mistress.
Q: My partner fantasizes about other women. What do I do now?
A: Well there is not much that you can do. Men fantasize about other women all the time and there is nothing odd about it. You might be stressing for nothing. He is still with you ain’t he? So you must be doing something right.
Q: I want to get engaged, my man doesn’t. What is a girl to do?
A: This is quite simple. Don’t pressure him or you will push him away. He will do it when the time is right – let him be. You aren’t missing much.
Q: How do I get rid of an ex?
A: Exes can be very stubborn – to the point where we want to hire hitmen or sell them to an place with an obsessive amount of poverty. Try these tips before you do anything drastic, if it doesn’t work you can revert to desperate measures. Your ex: Don’t reply on your exes sms’. Don’t phone your ex. If you see him/her wave to say hello and walk past. Don’t chitchat – it’s an ex not your friend. Erase their number from your phone if you don’t have the nr you cant call. If they should phone and bug you don’t answer. If they rock up at your home call the police you have a stalker believe me! If the police won’t help adopt a blood seeking rotweiler or two. Throw anything you have of your ex away. Play on their sensitive subjects even if it’ll make them hate you – better hate than stalking. If you are cornered and have to talk to them keep it blunt and to the point. Even if you love them don’t let them know they’ll get hope from it. Don’t meet your exes even though they want to meet up with you for “closure” – it’s just opening a new can of worms. Change your phone number. His/her ex: Phone his/he ex that’s bugging you two and tell the ex you and your partner have moved on. Let his ex know that he/she’s an ex for a reason. Tell your partner if it’s bugging you and what you would like e.g. Him not contacting her/him anymore.
Q: I want to get engaged to feel that I belong.
A: That is kind of a strange reason to want to get engaged. I’m sure you love this person but things happen when they are supposed to. Be patient – it might be worth the wait you know.
Q: How does one handle a breakup?
A: A break-up was never easy and it’s never going to be but here are a few tips to make it more bearable. Go to friends for comfort you need to get your mind off of your turn of events. Go sing karaoke at the nearest place. Try to meet new people – your judge of character might be a little bit low now so take a trustworthy person with. Delete any sms’, get rid of any letters, gifts, photo’s etc (Throw away or pack it into a box and put it away for now) – the last thing you need is reminders. Don’t beg to get him back, getting rejected every time will only make you break even more – if he wants you back he will ask you back (he has your phone number).If he has a new partner don’t bug him and mess up their relationship – this girl did you no harm she wants to be happy just like you. If you can’t help contacting him write the number down, delete it from your phone and give it to your friend in an envelope for safe keeping until you can resist calling/smsing him. Don’t bad-mouth him it doesn’t mean because he left you that you can slander his name it’ll come back to haunt you. Cry your heart out, cry, cry and cry – you need to get that emotion out of your system, it’s for the best. You have a fear of being lonely or alone? You are made to be in a partnership? A dog is mans best friend, get a puppy or cat maybe even a teddy bear, put your energy into something else. So your boyfriend is gone, find something else to fill that void or space. Keep busy! You probably have internet so read, read and read some more. Go to a party – you might not feel up to it but it’ll do you good.
Q: My partner wants to do anal and I don’t.
A: Umm, I know that you want to experiment with this or enjoy it but people have choice and don’t you think that there are other ways of doing it? You can’t force someone to have sex with you via your bum. It might even be for your own good because this person could be inexperienced and not use enough lube and hurt the inside. If this person does not want to do it then let them be you aren’t missing much.
Q: I had an abortion quite some time ago – is it too late to tell my partner now?
A: It is never too late to tell the truth.
Q: I’m not a virgin. I feel like I have nothing to give my partner. What am I to do?
A: Bring a virgin can be mentally too. It doesn’t mean that because you lost it physically you can’t give it mentally to your partner. Explain that to your partner.
Q: My girlfriend is getting fat and I hate fat people. Its either she loses weight or I dump her. What should I do?
A: Tell her how you feel. She will either understand and ask you to help her lose weight or you will get a bitch-slap maybe even killed – joke. If she agrees to lose weight then support her and help get some info and programs. Might I add that it is very superficial of you to dump her because of a few pounds?
Q: My girlfriend is getting fat and I am worried about her health. What should I do?
A: Tell her how you feel. She will either understand and ask you to help her lose weight or you will get a bitch-slap maybe even killed – joke. If she agrees to lose weight then support her and help get some info and programs.
Q: My girlfriend fantasizes about other men. What do I do now?
A: Well there is not much that you can do. You might be stressing for nothing. She is still with you ain’t she? So you must be doing something right. Just keep a close eye on the situation.
Q: I want to engaged, my woman doesn’t. What is a guy to do?
A: This is quite simple. Don’t pressure her or you will push her away. She will let you know when the time is right – let her be. It will be something great and one of the best days in your life. Be patient.
Q: I want to move n with my partner badly, what do I do?
A: Let a hint slip now and then or ask him to his face. The worse he could do is say no. If he isn’t ready then you have to respect that.
Q: Does my partner need to know of my past because it will hurt him if he hears it.
A: No your partner doesn’t need to know of your past. If you don’t talk about it he can’t ask you about it. And only tell him what he needs to know. The basic facts.
Q: I have to tell my partner how I’m feeling otherwise I’m bottling it up but it hurts him – what do I do?
A: You don’t have to bottle it up and it only feels that you’re bottling it up because you are thinking it. The mind is a powerful thing. Tell him in a nice way. You don’t have to blurt everything out you know you can sugar-coat your words.
Q: My partner wants me to move in with him but I’m too scared to take the chance. What do I do?
A: Life is about taking chances. What’s the worse that can happen?
Q: I’m scared of losing my partner. I’m going out of my mind with worries. Please tell me what I should do.
A: Oh my gosh, ouch, this is something most of us worry about. There is no use is worrying. He/she is gonna leave if he/she wants to and there is nothing you can do to stop the person but you can show him/her what he/she would be losing if he/she left. Just enjoy the time you have with your partner. Put on a brave face.
Q: I’m starting to doubt whether I can make my partner happy. Am I a good or a bad partner and what am I to do?
A: Judging by the fact that you are here and trying to find out what to do tells me that you are putting or trying to put effort in this relationship. Nothing and nobody is perfect, hun. Only you can judge by your standard whether you are a good or bad partner. It is for your partner to decide whether you can make him/her happy. Maybe it’s not even you that’s making him/her unhappy. He/she could be under a lot of stress at work
Q: My partner wants me to have sex with him while I have my periods. It grosses me out. Help?!
A: Periods is part of nature and sex is part of nature – so why not do both? If you really don’t want to then tell him but you should maybe at least try considering it. Get a red towel to place under you.
Q: I want my girlfriend to moan while I satisfy her but she doesn’t. Help, what do I do?
A: Most gals are too shy – let her know how you feel and that it is sexy to you. Also consider that maybe she isn’t getting the feeling she should. There could be something medically wrong.
Q: My partner died a year ago and I have met a new person. Am I ready to move on?
A: Let me begin by saying I’m sorry about your loss and that it must’ve been very difficult for you and I sympathize. Only you can decide whether you are ready if not. You will be able to feel it in your heart – when you are ready, you will be able to feel ready.
Q: My ex lost our baby and I cannot get over it. What can I do?
A: The only thing I can suggest is talk to your ex partner about going for counseling together. This will rip your apart if you do not go for help. Make an appointment ASAP.
Q: Can you maybe give me some tips on Internet Dating?
A: Cyber dating could turn into a real relationship just don’t put all your hope on it. Here are some tips. Don’t feel bad to cross-question the person you are speaking to. If you know somebody, a friend or a family member in the police ask them to check this person out. Write down all details this person gives you to check if it changes when asked at a later stage. Be careful of sending photos that could be doctored. Be extra careful of sending naked photos it can become incriminating. Try to get as much information as possible to get to know this person as best you can. If you meet, please meet in a public place. You don’t know this person.
Q: How do I tell my partner I’m pregnant?
A: Okay, so now you are pregnant and you know this for a fact – how on earth do you tell him? Here are some facts and tips. He does have a right to know but it is your choice whether you tell him or not. Even if you want to get an abortion its only right that he should know that you are going to have one. Arrange a romantic dinner and tell him then. Write him a letter (but he will respect it more face to face). Start by saying you love him and you respect his opinions…blah blah….
Q: If you could give your dating advice in one paragraph, what would it be?
A: I would begin by saying, if you are single and ready to mingle then apply a few significant dating tips. These dating tips will be helpful in getting your soul mate. Being a single is quite tough, as there are several things to share. Although, there are no such magic formulas for trapping your Mr. Right or Miss Right, still you can apply a few dating tips. People have several misconceptions about dating. Dating is simply meeting and socializing with a person who may or may not bring shine in life. Significant Ideas for Dating Tips - You must do a little preparation before going for a date. Your appearance or preparation must be in accordance with the person with whom you are going for date. In order to make your date a complete success, you must work hard. Your feelings play key role in a successful date. This is a great dating tip. One of the major dating tips in looking out for the love of your life is your appearance. Although, appearance is considered deceptive, still it plays key role while dating. In order to enhance your appearance, you must go for a gym, read health magazines and have healthy diet. People often neglect their hairstyles, but they are significant to your appearance. A good grooming or beauty treatment would be helpful in making your date a success. Love and emotions are the key factors while going for dating. But, there is another very significant factor. Your clothes have major part in your appearance. It would be advisable to wear only comfortable clothes. Do not get overboard. Before going for the date, you must consider a few things. For instance, if you are ready for commitment or just going out for a simple enjoyment. These few factors must be considered. On the other hand, if you are getting involved with feelings and looking for a long-term relationship then set your mind accordingly. Before going on date, try to get rid from all the negative thoughts and go for positive social gatherings. This would lead to the enhancement of self-belief and nerve.
Q: I’m pregnant and I want an abortion but my partner doesn’t believe in abortion.
A: Well I guess he didn’t believe in condoms or contraceptive either. You should’ve thought of these things way earlier but hey people learn from their mistakes. Ask him to get more information with you from clinic. Get brochures and talk about it. If her doesn’t budge then so be it. He will have to provide for that child. Having a baby might not be so bad. At least you have a man who cares about you and wants a family – most people don’t have that luxury.
Q: I cheated on my partner – how do I tell him?
A: Tell him with all sincerity and let him know that you regret it. Ask him for forgiveness.
Q: My partner hits me, what do I do?
A: You can’t change a man that hits women. Go to your nearest family member and tell them. Go to the police and make a case ASAP please. This is your life we are talking about.
Q: My partner doesn’t look me in the eyes when having sex.
A: Talk to your partner about this. Your partner might not even be noticing that he/she is doing this. Take into consideration that your partner might just be living the moment.
Q: My partners getting distant – what do I do?
A: There’s not much you can do. Ask your partner why he/she is getting distant and be prepared to hear bad news. Try to resolve this issue your relationship deserves it.
Q: My girlfriend wants me to have sex with her while she has her periods. It grosses me out. Help?!
A: Periods is part of nature and sex is part of nature – so why not do both? If you really don’t want to then tell her but you should maybe at least try considering it. Get a red towel to place under her.
Q: My partner accuses me of cheating and so help me God, I’m not cheating! How do I get this bull out of his head?
A: He might just be very jealous and you have to help him with that. When he gets jealous over something then you just have to tell him that you love him and only him etc etc. You will have to reassure him to build his confidence in the relationship.
Q: Is it too soon to move on?
A: Nobody can tell you whether it is too soon to move on and you will feel it in your gut when you are ready to move on. Just keep in mind that it's gonna hurt your partner to see you move on within the first month.
Q: My partner won’t say he loves me and sometimes I feel it’s asking him too much. Am I wrong?
A: No, you are absolutely not wrong for asking. If he is just playing on your feelings in any way whatsoever then he is wrong. He can’t love you but let you worry just for the fun of it. You are not his toy, you are his partner.
Q: I’m scared of losing my partner. I’m going out of my mind with worries. Please tell me what I should do.
A: Oh my gosh, ouch, this is something most of us girls worry about. There is no use is worrying. He is gonna leave if he wants to and there is nothing you can do to stop him but you can show him what he would be losing if he left. Just enjoy the time you have with him. Put on a brave face.
Q: I’m starting to doubt whether I can make my partner happy. Am I a good or a bad girlfriend and what am I to do?
A: Judging by the fact that you are here and trying to find out what to do tells me that you are putting or trying to put effort in this relationship. Nothing and nobody is perfect, hun. Only you can judge by your standard whether you are a good or bad girlfriend. It is for your partner to decide whether you can make him happy. Maybe it’s not even you that’s making him unhappy. He could be under a lot of stress at work
Q: I lost our baby and my partner cannot get over it. What can we do?
A: The only thing I can suggest is talk to your partner about going for counseling together. This will rip your relationship apart if you do not go for help. Make an appointment ASAP.
Q: How can I tell whether my partner was pregnant before from another man but lost the baby? Can this be why they broke up?
A: Just ask your partner straight to her face. If she lies just wait – she will tell you the truth in her own time when she is ready. This could be the reason they broke up but this was before you so do not worry about nothing.
Q: My partner died a year ago and I have met a new person. Am I ready to move on?
A: Let me begin by saying I am sorry about your loss and that it must have been very difficult for you and I sympathize. Only you can decide whether you are ready if not. You will be able to feel it in your heart – when you are ready, you will be able to feel ready.
Q: I want to phone my partner – but I don’t have a job to pay for airtime.
A: Yes your partner would love to receive a phone call from you now and then but explain to your partner. He/she will understand. You will find a job soon and then you can spoil your partner.
Q: My partner got badly burned and disfigured in an accident. What do I do?
A: If this is true love then you’ll love the person for what’s inside not outside and it shouldn’t make a difference to you. He/she is still the same person inside. This is where you prove yourself worthy of love.
Q: My partner can’t get erect anymore. What now?
A: Go to your GP or a pharmacy and ask for your options (pills etc).
Q: I want to ask my girlfriend to marry me, is it the right thing to do?
A: If you love her very dearly then please do J
Q: I want my girlfriend to move in with me but I’m too scared to take the chance. What do I do?
A: Life is about taking chances. What’s the worse that can happen?
Q: I want to get engaged to my girlfriend but I’m too scared. What now?
A: Life is about taking chances.
Q: I’m a virgin. Do I give my virginity to my partner?
A: You don’t have to give it to the first person you meet. Make sure this person is sincere and likes you for you and isn’t just around to use you.
Q: I’m a 20-yearold female. What would you say I should not do on a first date?
A: First of all I want to say remember first impressions last. Be yourself – just leave your not so good part of yourself at home and put forward your great self.
Don’t order the most expensive thing on the menu. Don’t talk about your ex boyfriends/girlfriends. Don’t bitch and moan about things. Don’t wear too much make-up he wants to see the person he is dating not an overload of Revlon. Don’t wear clothes that make your breasts hang out, it’s sexy to some but slutty to most and you want him to look you in your eyes not stare at your assets. Do not speak with your mouth full – yes your mother has told you this since you were small and that was a good tip thank her. Never ever trust this person too soon you don’t know if he is who he really is so meet at a public place and have your own transport or means of transport ready. Please use the manners your mother taught you. Don’t pressure the guy to have sex with you if he doesn’t want to. If you want to see the person again maybe you shouldn’t sleep with him on the first date, first impressions last.
Q: I have to tell my girlfriend how I’m feeling otherwise I’m bottling it up but it hurts her – what do I do?
A: You don’t have to bottle it up and it only feels that you’re bottling it up because you are thinking it. The mind is a powerful thing. Tell her in a nice way. You don’t have to blurt everything out you know you can sugar-coat your words.
Q: Does my partner need to know of my past because it will hurt her if she hears it.
A: No your partner doesn’t need to know of your past. If you don’t talk about it she can’t ask you about it. And only tell her what she needs to know. The basic facts.
Q: Having sex hurts physically, do I tell my partner?
A: Yes you do and you should tell him that ASAP. It might be something medical.
Q: My husband controls me – what must I do?
A; Sometimes it is nice to have a partner who comments on what he would like you to wear or how he would like you to wear your hair. The problem comes when you are too independent. Just watch out that it won’t turn into an abusive relationship.
Q: What would you say someone should wear on a first date?
A: Wear according to the weather – short skirts aren’t that great in winter or rainy weather. Wear something sexy but that covers your assets you want him to meet you then your assets not the other way around. Wear something comfortable but classy. Wear just enough make-up to enhance your looks he needs to see your beautiful face.
Q: Must I choose my partner or my career?
A: We as humans are created to love and be loved and nobody can make that decision for you. It is for you to decide which one is more important to you.
Q: Am I doing too much for my partner?
A: There is no such thing except when the other person doesn’t appreciate what you are doing or is taking advantage.
Q: I found condoms in my partner car – but we don’t use condoms. Help!
A: One word, confrontation. Confront your partner and then look for any sign or gut feelings that the person is lying.
Q: My partner doesn’t like me touching him – what’s a girl to do?
A: Some men just are like that but he should respect that you want to touch him. Compromise. Come to a conclusion together.
Q: My partner browses chat-sites and it makes me extremely uncomfortable. Do you think I am being paranoid?
A: Browsing the internet while in a relationship can cause many problems. If he is on Facebook or MySpace, then I guess there are some girls from school or work that are on his friends list and that could make you feel very uncomfortable hey. The chances are that you have nothing to worry about but we all know the human mind and we all know men. Most men would sleep with anybody who is female. If I were you I’d just keep my eye on the situation. There’s no use in stressing about something that has not happened yet.
Q: My girlfriend is a virgin. We have decided, together, that I’m going to be her first.
A: So you both know what you want. Be gentle. Buy some candles. Start with a romantic bath with foam bath, candles that light the room (red and pink). Make out in the bath. When you are done caressing, kissing and building the passion – take it to the candlelit bedroom. She is going to be nervous and scared inside – it’s her first time.
Q: My boyfriend is going to a party (a female’s friend of his’ birthday party) and he didn’t even invite me. What does that mean and what am I to do?
A: He must have a good reason for not inviting you. Yes we as women feel very insecure when it comes to our boyfriends’ females friends. Even though we don’t have to feel threatened- we do. Your first instinct is to think that he didn’t invite you because he wants to keep you a secret, doesn’t want you to meet her or is going to do something totally irresponsible. Most men are going to do something irresponsible but it’s not to say that you boyfriend is going to. Just trust in your love and your relationship. There is no use in stressing about the inevitable. You can stretch the timeline but not the outcome. Even though you feel like this event is crushing you – you have to let him have his fun because when you guys fight or even break up then this event is going to get thrown in your face. You cannot change a man and you cannot cage a man. You just have to put up with this kind of behaviour if you want to keep him. When you keep a man on a short leash he is going to try and break free. If you are going to keep him on a short leash you are going to get a kick under the ass.
Q: My boyfriend is going to an old female’s friend of his’ birthday party and I’m feeling kind of insecure about it. Am I wrong?
A: Girl, you are so not wrong. Yes we as women feel very insecure when it comes to our boyfriends’ females friends. Even though we don’t have to feel threatened- we do. Ask him whether you can go with. If he says yes, then he has nothing to hide. If he says no, well, then he is either shy of you or don’t want you to go with. Your first instinct is to think that he didn’t invite you because he wants to keep you a secret, doesn’t want you to meet her or is going to do something totally irresponsible. I’m going to repeat the advice I gave above because this I have learned the hard way. Most men are going to do something irresponsible but it’s not to say that you boyfriend is going to. Just trust in your love and your relationship. There is no use in stressing about the inevitable. You can stretch the timeline but not the outcome. Even though you feel like this event is crushing you – you have to let him have his fun because when you guys fight or even break up then this event is going to get thrown in your face. You cannot change a man and you cannot cage a man. You just have to put up with this kind of behaviour if you want to keep him. When you keep a man on a short leash he is going to try and break free. If you are going to keep him on a short leash you are going to get a kick under the ass. Most men have their own interests at your not their partners’. Just hope for the best and keep hoping. Hoping and wishing has never been a crime.
Q: My boyfriend won’t leave his drugs for me. I am at my wits end. I need to know what to do.
A: You have to choose. Do you want to leave him or are you going to accept him using drugs. You cannot change him. If he does not want to change, take yourself out of the situation because you don’t need him. If he does not want to leave the drugs for you and you mean that little to him then move on. It might not feel as if you can but you came into this world alone and you die alone so you don’t need him. If you have a child –do it for your child. Yes people are who they arte but people are also who they choose to be. Do what you can live with.
Q: My partner does not like the same music as I do.
A: Your partner does not need to like the same music as you do. You could actually respect each others taste in music and learn from each other. People are different – we are created this way.
Q: I’m pregnant; do I need to tell my partner or ex before I go for an abortion?
A: Oh most definitely. It takes two to create a baby why shouldn’t it take two to decide on abortion. It is his baby too you know.
Q: I think I’m gay, How do I tell my partner. I’m scared my partner won’t understand.
A: Your partner deserves to know the truth. Tell your partner in person not over the phone and do it in a calm environment. Say it as graceful as you can. Say it the way you would have wanted to hear it if you had to.
Q: My boyfriend wants to leave me. Do I trick him and get pregnant?
A: Hell no! That is a recipe for disaster. What happens if he doesn’t want it or cannot afford it? If he wants to leave you then it’s a ticket for you to move one. Don’t bring an innocent child into it.
Q: My boyfriend is cheating – what do I do?
A: First of all, get hard facts. Then confront him with it. Find out who he is cheating with and let them know who you are. Then try and found out what went wrong between the two of you.
Q: My boyfriend is always nasty to me, what is his problem and what can I do?
A: There could be a number of things wrong but I don’t think that him being nasty to you is right. He should have respect for you and your feelings.
Q: I’m going through a really difficult time and I’m trying to explain this to him but he just keeps on making nasty comments. I don’t know what to do I need your help.
A: First of all a partner is there to support you and wipe away the tears. Need I say more?
Q: My boyfriend doesn’t support me when I’m sad and all I want is him to comfort me. What am I to do?
A: It’s not what you can do; it’s about what he can’t. A partner should learn to do things they never did before. He should know to hold you when you are sad. There is nothing as terrible as being sad and having nobody to comfort you. Explain to him how you feel or leave him and find someone who will be a better partner. You can’t change people who don’t want to change.
Q: My girlfriend lives in a shithole; do I ask her to move in with me?
A: Just by the fact that you are asking this tells me that you care. If you both have the same standard or her standard are even higher than yours then why not. If your girlfriend is living in a bad place then she needs a hero – and who better than you to be the hero? Just make sure you know her well enough.
Q: My boyfriend knows that I’ll commit suicide if he leaves me. Now he is too scared too follow what he wants to do because he doesn’t want my suicide on his mind. What now?
A: By the fact that you are even so sure that you will do it tells me that you have thought about it a lot and have your plan completely worked out. You might even succeed but tell him that he doesn’t have to worry and reassure him in any way possible. If you commit suicide he wont even know because how is he going to find out?
Q: My partner wants to take ballroom dancing lessons and I don’t want my partner to because I’m a jealous person.
A: Don’t wear your heart and your sleeve for too long. Take the lessons with your partner. This might be your partners dream please be considerate and see help for your jealousy. Speak to a professional about your jealousy and possessiveness.
Q: I want my girlfriend to wear lingerie.
A: You do know she cannot read mind don’t you? You have to speak to her and mention it. If she seems to be okay with it, well, then buy her lingerie as a surprise present. Check if she’ll wear it. Communication is the key.
Q: I want to wear lingerie for my boyfriend but he already had girlfriends that wore lingerie for him. How do I beat that?
A: it not for you to beat it. So what, girls wore lingerie for him. Ten to one it’s not like it seems. Get a sexy number that suits your figure and that’s more you. It doesn’t mean that because he had women wearing sexy pieces for him that he won’t appreciate you wearing it for him. It will still turn him on and you will still look sexy for him. Don’t wear yourself down wit these worries. Concentrate on your relationship not his past.
Q: What is the average age for starting periods?
A: It could start around 12 – 13 years of age or maybe even as late as 16 or 17. Every person is different and start around different ages. There are girls as young as 9 staring their periods.
Q: I want to take my girlfriend away from a very bad place she is staying in but I’m too scared because I previously had a bad experience with that. Do I ask her or am I right to be weary?
A: This is your girlfriend we are talking about. She is staying in a place which I’m sure you don’t even approve of as something she should call home because home is where the heart is. Previous issues have nothing to do with the future and that is what you have to drill into your mind. If you do not take the chance then you will never know what could have happened. Your girlfriend needs a hero round about now and do you know how much that could mean to her that you gave her a place of safety and love? Imagine having a girlfriend who tells you that you are her hero.
Q: My girlfriend keeps crying – I wish she would just stop sopping about everything. Am I wrong for wanting this?
A: And when you are sad? When you are ill? Don’t you think she would comfort you or rather help you than to tell you to shut up? She is sad. Comfort her. I’m sure she’s sad for a reason. Be a real man and support and nurture her because she needs you.
Q: My boyfriend feels more sorry for me than he loves me. Is this something I want to live with?
A: Let me start off by saying that girlfriends should act tough even if they are dying inside. Don’t let a man ever see your vulnerable side. Cry but cry alone. Once they see the tears you practically give them a one way ticket. Men don’t want to see their chicks cry about everything. Things that happened in your past should stay in the past. Do not and I repeat do not tell them about exes, rape or family issues. We all say that in relationships your boyfriend should support you etc but let’s face reality. If you had a bad life he is going to feel sorry for you and feel obligated not to leave you. It is also unfair towards him to only want to stay with you because he doesn’t think you could handle a breakup.
Q: My man is a drug addict and wants me to accept it. What now?
A: Men say they will love you more if you accept their snags and gags like them being drug-addicts, do not believe it. Somebody can't love you more because you let them do drugs. If he won’t change then leave. You owe it to yourself.
Q: Every time my dad buys me something my mom demands the same thing, from clothes to body deodorant. This is driving me crazy because for once I want to receive something, alone. Please help.
A: This can be so frustrating and seem like something stupid but something stupid like this has such a big impact on your feelings. There is not much you can do because talking to your mom won’t solve the problem. Just grin and bear it and don’t involve yourself.
Q: I want to be cool at school; I don’t want to be the nurde anymore.
A: Either you are cool or you aren’t. You are worrying about school – you have your whole life ahead of you. Why would you worry about what children think? I know, I know you want tips on how to be cool – so here they are: Walk up straight, don’t slouch, speak clearly and in a confident voice – do not whisper, get the latest tunes, get the latest fashion magazine, buy new clothes that is in season, its all about hair, fashion, nails and things you do. Hang out with the right crowd that will make you look cool.
Q: My partner was raped, what do I do now?
A: This is probably going to be the hardest time of your partners life and what happened is going to hurt like hell for the both of you but you need to be strong for your partner. Tips on how to deal with it: Be sympathetic and acknowledge your partners pain. Your partner might be distant – remember it is not your fault. Give support where you can. Keep in mind that the rape isn’t your fault either. Try to get your partner to get out – your partner needs to get it off his/her mind. Show your partner that you are there to protect him/her. Give him/her brochures to read about rape. Let him/her know that she/he could either be a rape victim or a rape survivor and to be a rape survivor is the best. If the rapist identity is known – encourage him/her to report it. If you do report it be prepared for a great battle but it will be rewarding in the end and bring closure. Show her that you are trustworthy and there to help. Look out for signs of depression – if it gets out of hand seek help for the both of you.
Q: What does one do if you catch your boyfriend in the act? (in bed with someone else)
A: You might want to commit murder when you catch them in the act but there are easier things to do: Politely tell them to go on you are just quickly going to pack your things. Go sit on the bed and ask them what sick people are they. Ask your partner did he/she really think you wouldn’t find out. Ask your partner what drove him/her to cheating. Stay calm – don’t reach for any sharp objects, talk things out.
Q: Can you please give me some flirting tips?
A: Women are so much more subtle about flirting clues that men need to really pay attention. Ladies, men are not used to women flirting with them. An overwhelming majority of men said they would just love it if a woman would talk to them first or at least express a larger clue that you were interested in checking them out. Repeated contact...at least three separate verbal or non-verbal clues need to be given. Why? The first time he's going to look around and make sure it's really him that you are flirting with. The second, he knows it's him and he gets flushed and pleased. (At this point he'll probably walk by you and at least smile…he's checking you out a little more.) The third time you can express interest-by introducing yourself, or commenting on his tie, or waving from across the room. Now he knows you are open to meeting and it will be a cinch. Whisper...it always gets their attention. Ask them if you can tell them a secret...Then whisper in their ear: 'I just love your tie...can I buy it from you when you are done with it?' Don't sit with other women...men don't want you to reject them in front of an audience. If you do go out with a friend...separate every so often or take a breather from talking...men do not want to risk your disapproval by interrupting you. (You have already missed out on a lot of quality polite men who didn't want to interrupt.) Treat men gently...If someone you are not interested in approaches you and flirts ...be nice.... All the other men are watching to see what you do. If you laugh after he leaves or show visual disapproval, you are cutting your chances on anyone else approaching you. Try shaking his hand and saying something like: 'It was so nice of you to approach me...what's your name? Tom? Tom, I know how hard it is to meet people...I might have a girlfriend who would be interested in you.' IF he acts like a JERK! Be polite but firm. Hand him a copy of the men's version of 'Flirting with Greatness' and ask him to go practice on someone else. Firmly say that 'lines' with sexual overtones are not only not attractive to you but to most other women in the world. Use the Buddy system. Walk through a group of men and have someone watch to see who's checking you out. Become More Irresistible! Show a little leg....wear higher heels...the redder the lipstick the more available and noticeable you will be. Arch your back a little as you sit up tall and cross your legs high. Wear earrings that are interesting enough to make someone comment on them. Look over your shoulder...and smile at him. This asymmetrical position is always a signal you are interested. Give him a look all over from head to toe - nod with approval and then smile. Keep in mind that flirting is a way of connecting from the heart and acknowledging someone.
Q: My girlfriend suffers from anorexia/bulimia (eating disorder), I’m at my wits end. I don’t want her to be ill or die. I’m pleading for help.
A: Let me thank you for standing by your girlfriend. You need so much praise for being there for her and asking for help. I do need to tell you that this article can give you guidelines but you need much much more help than reading this. You need to tell her how you feel and that you want to help her. You need to get her to a doctor to get her weighed and have a full body checkup for any side-effects the anorexia/bulimia had. She also needs a psychologist or psychiatrist ASAP.
Q: What is bulimia and the side-effects?
A: Bulimia is when a male/female binges and purges i.o.w, eats and puts their finger down their throat to puke. The side effects to name a few are: heart complications from puking. Most people who are bulimic wont be as under weight as people with anorexia.
Q: What is anorexia and the ruthless side effects?
A: Anorexia is when the male/female refuses to eat or only eats too small portions than they should. The side-effects are: hair loss, hair growing on stomach to keep the body warm because there is no fat, periods for females to disappear, breaking of bones, osteoporoses in old age, just to name a few.
Q: How can I get ways to keep healthy?
A: Set realistic targets and tackle one area of weakness at a time. Eat a more balanced diet and maintain a healthy weight. If you are overweight or underweight it takes a big toile on your health and heart. Keep your alcohol intake within government-prescribed safe limits. If you smoke, look at ways to stop. Take more exercise. The human body needs to keep fit. Visit the doctor if you have a persistent health problem. Better safe than sorry. Consider how you might cultivate better ways to cope with stress. Stress has never ever been good for anybody’s health though we have it every day of our life.
Q: My partner fantasizes about other women. What do I do now?
A: Well there is not much that you can do. Men fantasize about other women all the time and there is nothing odd about it. You might be stressing for nothing. He is still with you ain’t he? So you must be doing something right.
Q: I want to get engaged, my man doesn’t. What is a girl to do?
A: This is quite simple. Don’t pressure him or you will push him away. He will do it when the time is right – let him be. You aren’t missing much.
Q: How do I get rid of an ex?
A: Exes can be very stubborn – to the point where we want to hire hitmen or sell them to an place with an obsessive amount of poverty. Try these tips before you do anything drastic, if it doesn’t work you can revert to desperate measures. Your ex: Don’t reply on your exes sms’. Don’t phone your ex. If you see him/her wave to say hello and walk past. Don’t chitchat – it’s an ex not your friend. Erase their number from your phone if you don’t have the nr you cant call. If they should phone and bug you don’t answer. If they rock up at your home call the police you have a stalker believe me! If the police won’t help adopt a blood seeking rotweiler or two. Throw anything you have of your ex away. Play on their sensitive subjects even if it’ll make them hate you – better hate than stalking. If you are cornered and have to talk to them keep it blunt and to the point. Even if you love them don’t let them know they’ll get hope from it. Don’t meet your exes even though they want to meet up with you for “closure” – it’s just opening a new can of worms. Change your phone number. His/her ex: Phone his/he ex that’s bugging you two and tell the ex you and your partner have moved on. Let his ex know that he/she’s an ex for a reason. Tell your partner if it’s bugging you and what you would like e.g. Him not contacting her/him anymore.
Q: I want to get engaged to feel that I belong.
A: That is kind of a strange reason to want to get engaged. I’m sure you love this person but things happen when they are supposed to. Be patient – it might be worth the wait you know.
Q: How does one handle a breakup?
A: A break-up was never easy and it’s never going to be but here are a few tips to make it more bearable. Go to friends for comfort you need to get your mind off of your turn of events. Go sing karaoke at the nearest place. Try to meet new people – your judge of character might be a little bit low now so take a trustworthy person with. Delete any sms’, get rid of any letters, gifts, photo’s etc (Throw away or pack it into a box and put it away for now) – the last thing you need is reminders. Don’t beg to get him back, getting rejected every time will only make you break even more – if he wants you back he will ask you back (he has your phone number).If he has a new partner don’t bug him and mess up their relationship – this girl did you no harm she wants to be happy just like you. If you can’t help contacting him write the number down, delete it from your phone and give it to your friend in an envelope for safe keeping until you can resist calling/smsing him. Don’t bad-mouth him it doesn’t mean because he left you that you can slander his name it’ll come back to haunt you. Cry your heart out, cry, cry and cry – you need to get that emotion out of your system, it’s for the best. You have a fear of being lonely or alone? You are made to be in a partnership? A dog is mans best friend, get a puppy or cat maybe even a teddy bear, put your energy into something else. So your boyfriend is gone, find something else to fill that void or space. Keep busy! You probably have internet so read, read and read some more. Go to a party – you might not feel up to it but it’ll do you good.
Q: My partner wants to do anal and I don’t.
A: Umm, I know that you want to experiment with this or enjoy it but people have choice and don’t you think that there are other ways of doing it? You can’t force someone to have sex with you via your bum. It might even be for your own good because this person could be inexperienced and not use enough lube and hurt the inside. If this person does not want to do it then let them be you aren’t missing much.
Q: I had an abortion quite some time ago – is it too late to tell my partner now?
A: It is never too late to tell the truth.
Q: I’m not a virgin. I feel like I have nothing to give my partner. What am I to do?
A: Bring a virgin can be mentally too. It doesn’t mean that because you lost it physically you can’t give it mentally to your partner. Explain that to your partner.
Q: My girlfriend is getting fat and I hate fat people. Its either she loses weight or I dump her. What should I do?
A: Tell her how you feel. She will either understand and ask you to help her lose weight or you will get a bitch-slap maybe even killed – joke. If she agrees to lose weight then support her and help get some info and programs. Might I add that it is very superficial of you to dump her because of a few pounds?
Q: My girlfriend is getting fat and I am worried about her health. What should I do?
A: Tell her how you feel. She will either understand and ask you to help her lose weight or you will get a bitch-slap maybe even killed – joke. If she agrees to lose weight then support her and help get some info and programs.
Q: My girlfriend fantasizes about other men. What do I do now?
A: Well there is not much that you can do. You might be stressing for nothing. She is still with you ain’t she? So you must be doing something right. Just keep a close eye on the situation.
Q: I want to engaged, my woman doesn’t. What is a guy to do?
A: This is quite simple. Don’t pressure her or you will push her away. She will let you know when the time is right – let her be. It will be something great and one of the best days in your life. Be patient.
Q: I want to move n with my partner badly, what do I do?
A: Let a hint slip now and then or ask him to his face. The worse he could do is say no. If he isn’t ready then you have to respect that.
Q: Does my partner need to know of my past because it will hurt him if he hears it.
A: No your partner doesn’t need to know of your past. If you don’t talk about it he can’t ask you about it. And only tell him what he needs to know. The basic facts.
Q: I have to tell my partner how I’m feeling otherwise I’m bottling it up but it hurts him – what do I do?
A: You don’t have to bottle it up and it only feels that you’re bottling it up because you are thinking it. The mind is a powerful thing. Tell him in a nice way. You don’t have to blurt everything out you know you can sugar-coat your words.
Q: My partner wants me to move in with him but I’m too scared to take the chance. What do I do?
A: Life is about taking chances. What’s the worse that can happen?
Q: I’m scared of losing my partner. I’m going out of my mind with worries. Please tell me what I should do.
A: Oh my gosh, ouch, this is something most of us worry about. There is no use is worrying. He/she is gonna leave if he/she wants to and there is nothing you can do to stop the person but you can show him/her what he/she would be losing if he/she left. Just enjoy the time you have with your partner. Put on a brave face.
Q: I’m starting to doubt whether I can make my partner happy. Am I a good or a bad partner and what am I to do?
A: Judging by the fact that you are here and trying to find out what to do tells me that you are putting or trying to put effort in this relationship. Nothing and nobody is perfect, hun. Only you can judge by your standard whether you are a good or bad partner. It is for your partner to decide whether you can make him/her happy. Maybe it’s not even you that’s making him/her unhappy. He/she could be under a lot of stress at work
Q: My partner wants me to have sex with him while I have my periods. It grosses me out. Help?!
A: Periods is part of nature and sex is part of nature – so why not do both? If you really don’t want to then tell him but you should maybe at least try considering it. Get a red towel to place under you.
Q: I want my girlfriend to moan while I satisfy her but she doesn’t. Help, what do I do?
A: Most gals are too shy – let her know how you feel and that it is sexy to you. Also consider that maybe she isn’t getting the feeling she should. There could be something medically wrong.
Q: My partner died a year ago and I have met a new person. Am I ready to move on?
A: Let me begin by saying I’m sorry about your loss and that it must’ve been very difficult for you and I sympathize. Only you can decide whether you are ready if not. You will be able to feel it in your heart – when you are ready, you will be able to feel ready.
Q: My ex lost our baby and I cannot get over it. What can I do?
A: The only thing I can suggest is talk to your ex partner about going for counseling together. This will rip your apart if you do not go for help. Make an appointment ASAP.
Q: Can you maybe give me some tips on Internet Dating?
A: Cyber dating could turn into a real relationship just don’t put all your hope on it. Here are some tips. Don’t feel bad to cross-question the person you are speaking to. If you know somebody, a friend or a family member in the police ask them to check this person out. Write down all details this person gives you to check if it changes when asked at a later stage. Be careful of sending photos that could be doctored. Be extra careful of sending naked photos it can become incriminating. Try to get as much information as possible to get to know this person as best you can. If you meet, please meet in a public place. You don’t know this person.
Q: How do I tell my partner I’m pregnant?
A: Okay, so now you are pregnant and you know this for a fact – how on earth do you tell him? Here are some facts and tips. He does have a right to know but it is your choice whether you tell him or not. Even if you want to get an abortion its only right that he should know that you are going to have one. Arrange a romantic dinner and tell him then. Write him a letter (but he will respect it more face to face). Start by saying you love him and you respect his opinions…blah blah….
Q: If you could give your dating advice in one paragraph, what would it be?
A: I would begin by saying, if you are single and ready to mingle then apply a few significant dating tips. These dating tips will be helpful in getting your soul mate. Being a single is quite tough, as there are several things to share. Although, there are no such magic formulas for trapping your Mr. Right or Miss Right, still you can apply a few dating tips. People have several misconceptions about dating. Dating is simply meeting and socializing with a person who may or may not bring shine in life. Significant Ideas for Dating Tips - You must do a little preparation before going for a date. Your appearance or preparation must be in accordance with the person with whom you are going for date. In order to make your date a complete success, you must work hard. Your feelings play key role in a successful date. This is a great dating tip. One of the major dating tips in looking out for the love of your life is your appearance. Although, appearance is considered deceptive, still it plays key role while dating. In order to enhance your appearance, you must go for a gym, read health magazines and have healthy diet. People often neglect their hairstyles, but they are significant to your appearance. A good grooming or beauty treatment would be helpful in making your date a success. Love and emotions are the key factors while going for dating. But, there is another very significant factor. Your clothes have major part in your appearance. It would be advisable to wear only comfortable clothes. Do not get overboard. Before going for the date, you must consider a few things. For instance, if you are ready for commitment or just going out for a simple enjoyment. These few factors must be considered. On the other hand, if you are getting involved with feelings and looking for a long-term relationship then set your mind accordingly. Before going on date, try to get rid from all the negative thoughts and go for positive social gatherings. This would lead to the enhancement of self-belief and nerve.
Q: I’m pregnant and I want an abortion but my partner doesn’t believe in abortion.
A: Well I guess he didn’t believe in condoms or contraceptive either. You should’ve thought of these things way earlier but hey people learn from their mistakes. Ask him to get more information with you from clinic. Get brochures and talk about it. If her doesn’t budge then so be it. He will have to provide for that child. Having a baby might not be so bad. At least you have a man who cares about you and wants a family – most people don’t have that luxury.
Q: I cheated on my partner – how do I tell him?
A: Tell him with all sincerity and let him know that you regret it. Ask him for forgiveness.
Q: My partner hits me, what do I do?
A: You can’t change a man that hits women. Go to your nearest family member and tell them. Go to the police and make a case ASAP please. This is your life we are talking about.
Q: My partner doesn’t look me in the eyes when having sex.
A: Talk to your partner about this. Your partner might not even be noticing that he/she is doing this. Take into consideration that your partner might just be living the moment.
Q: My partners getting distant – what do I do?
A: There’s not much you can do. Ask your partner why he/she is getting distant and be prepared to hear bad news. Try to resolve this issue your relationship deserves it.
Q: My girlfriend wants me to have sex with her while she has her periods. It grosses me out. Help?!
A: Periods is part of nature and sex is part of nature – so why not do both? If you really don’t want to then tell her but you should maybe at least try considering it. Get a red towel to place under her.
Q: My partner accuses me of cheating and so help me God, I’m not cheating! How do I get this bull out of his head?
A: He might just be very jealous and you have to help him with that. When he gets jealous over something then you just have to tell him that you love him and only him etc etc. You will have to reassure him to build his confidence in the relationship.
Q: Is it too soon to move on?
A: Nobody can tell you whether it is too soon to move on and you will feel it in your gut when you are ready to move on. Just keep in mind that it's gonna hurt your partner to see you move on within the first month.
Q: My partner won’t say he loves me and sometimes I feel it’s asking him too much. Am I wrong?
A: No, you are absolutely not wrong for asking. If he is just playing on your feelings in any way whatsoever then he is wrong. He can’t love you but let you worry just for the fun of it. You are not his toy, you are his partner.
Q: I’m scared of losing my partner. I’m going out of my mind with worries. Please tell me what I should do.
A: Oh my gosh, ouch, this is something most of us girls worry about. There is no use is worrying. He is gonna leave if he wants to and there is nothing you can do to stop him but you can show him what he would be losing if he left. Just enjoy the time you have with him. Put on a brave face.
Q: I’m starting to doubt whether I can make my partner happy. Am I a good or a bad girlfriend and what am I to do?
A: Judging by the fact that you are here and trying to find out what to do tells me that you are putting or trying to put effort in this relationship. Nothing and nobody is perfect, hun. Only you can judge by your standard whether you are a good or bad girlfriend. It is for your partner to decide whether you can make him happy. Maybe it’s not even you that’s making him unhappy. He could be under a lot of stress at work
Q: I lost our baby and my partner cannot get over it. What can we do?
A: The only thing I can suggest is talk to your partner about going for counseling together. This will rip your relationship apart if you do not go for help. Make an appointment ASAP.
Q: How can I tell whether my partner was pregnant before from another man but lost the baby? Can this be why they broke up?
A: Just ask your partner straight to her face. If she lies just wait – she will tell you the truth in her own time when she is ready. This could be the reason they broke up but this was before you so do not worry about nothing.
Q: My partner died a year ago and I have met a new person. Am I ready to move on?
A: Let me begin by saying I am sorry about your loss and that it must have been very difficult for you and I sympathize. Only you can decide whether you are ready if not. You will be able to feel it in your heart – when you are ready, you will be able to feel ready.
Q: I want to phone my partner – but I don’t have a job to pay for airtime.
A: Yes your partner would love to receive a phone call from you now and then but explain to your partner. He/she will understand. You will find a job soon and then you can spoil your partner.
Q: My partner got badly burned and disfigured in an accident. What do I do?
A: If this is true love then you’ll love the person for what’s inside not outside and it shouldn’t make a difference to you. He/she is still the same person inside. This is where you prove yourself worthy of love.
Q: My partner can’t get erect anymore. What now?
A: Go to your GP or a pharmacy and ask for your options (pills etc).
Q: I want to ask my girlfriend to marry me, is it the right thing to do?
A: If you love her very dearly then please do J
Q: I want my girlfriend to move in with me but I’m too scared to take the chance. What do I do?
A: Life is about taking chances. What’s the worse that can happen?
Q: I want to get engaged to my girlfriend but I’m too scared. What now?
A: Life is about taking chances.
Q: I’m a virgin. Do I give my virginity to my partner?
A: You don’t have to give it to the first person you meet. Make sure this person is sincere and likes you for you and isn’t just around to use you.
Q: I’m a 20-yearold female. What would you say I should not do on a first date?
A: First of all I want to say remember first impressions last. Be yourself – just leave your not so good part of yourself at home and put forward your great self.
Don’t order the most expensive thing on the menu. Don’t talk about your ex boyfriends/girlfriends. Don’t bitch and moan about things. Don’t wear too much make-up he wants to see the person he is dating not an overload of Revlon. Don’t wear clothes that make your breasts hang out, it’s sexy to some but slutty to most and you want him to look you in your eyes not stare at your assets. Do not speak with your mouth full – yes your mother has told you this since you were small and that was a good tip thank her. Never ever trust this person too soon you don’t know if he is who he really is so meet at a public place and have your own transport or means of transport ready. Please use the manners your mother taught you. Don’t pressure the guy to have sex with you if he doesn’t want to. If you want to see the person again maybe you shouldn’t sleep with him on the first date, first impressions last.
Q: I have to tell my girlfriend how I’m feeling otherwise I’m bottling it up but it hurts her – what do I do?
A: You don’t have to bottle it up and it only feels that you’re bottling it up because you are thinking it. The mind is a powerful thing. Tell her in a nice way. You don’t have to blurt everything out you know you can sugar-coat your words.
Q: Does my partner need to know of my past because it will hurt her if she hears it.
A: No your partner doesn’t need to know of your past. If you don’t talk about it she can’t ask you about it. And only tell her what she needs to know. The basic facts.
Q: Having sex hurts physically, do I tell my partner?
A: Yes you do and you should tell him that ASAP. It might be something medical.
Q: My husband controls me – what must I do?
A; Sometimes it is nice to have a partner who comments on what he would like you to wear or how he would like you to wear your hair. The problem comes when you are too independent. Just watch out that it won’t turn into an abusive relationship.
Q: What would you say someone should wear on a first date?
A: Wear according to the weather – short skirts aren’t that great in winter or rainy weather. Wear something sexy but that covers your assets you want him to meet you then your assets not the other way around. Wear something comfortable but classy. Wear just enough make-up to enhance your looks he needs to see your beautiful face.
Q: Must I choose my partner or my career?
A: We as humans are created to love and be loved and nobody can make that decision for you. It is for you to decide which one is more important to you.
Q: Am I doing too much for my partner?
A: There is no such thing except when the other person doesn’t appreciate what you are doing or is taking advantage.
Q: I found condoms in my partner car – but we don’t use condoms. Help!
A: One word, confrontation. Confront your partner and then look for any sign or gut feelings that the person is lying.
Q: My partner doesn’t like me touching him – what’s a girl to do?
A: Some men just are like that but he should respect that you want to touch him. Compromise. Come to a conclusion together.
Q: My partner browses chat-sites and it makes me extremely uncomfortable. Do you think I am being paranoid?
A: Browsing the internet while in a relationship can cause many problems. If he is on Facebook or MySpace, then I guess there are some girls from school or work that are on his friends list and that could make you feel very uncomfortable hey. The chances are that you have nothing to worry about but we all know the human mind and we all know men. Most men would sleep with anybody who is female. If I were you I’d just keep my eye on the situation. There’s no use in stressing about something that has not happened yet.
Q: My girlfriend is a virgin. We have decided, together, that I’m going to be her first.
A: So you both know what you want. Be gentle. Buy some candles. Start with a romantic bath with foam bath, candles that light the room (red and pink). Make out in the bath. When you are done caressing, kissing and building the passion – take it to the candlelit bedroom. She is going to be nervous and scared inside – it’s her first time.
Q: My boyfriend is going to a party (a female’s friend of his’ birthday party) and he didn’t even invite me. What does that mean and what am I to do?
A: He must have a good reason for not inviting you. Yes we as women feel very insecure when it comes to our boyfriends’ females friends. Even though we don’t have to feel threatened- we do. Your first instinct is to think that he didn’t invite you because he wants to keep you a secret, doesn’t want you to meet her or is going to do something totally irresponsible. Most men are going to do something irresponsible but it’s not to say that you boyfriend is going to. Just trust in your love and your relationship. There is no use in stressing about the inevitable. You can stretch the timeline but not the outcome. Even though you feel like this event is crushing you – you have to let him have his fun because when you guys fight or even break up then this event is going to get thrown in your face. You cannot change a man and you cannot cage a man. You just have to put up with this kind of behaviour if you want to keep him. When you keep a man on a short leash he is going to try and break free. If you are going to keep him on a short leash you are going to get a kick under the ass.
Q: My boyfriend is going to an old female’s friend of his’ birthday party and I’m feeling kind of insecure about it. Am I wrong?
A: Girl, you are so not wrong. Yes we as women feel very insecure when it comes to our boyfriends’ females friends. Even though we don’t have to feel threatened- we do. Ask him whether you can go with. If he says yes, then he has nothing to hide. If he says no, well, then he is either shy of you or don’t want you to go with. Your first instinct is to think that he didn’t invite you because he wants to keep you a secret, doesn’t want you to meet her or is going to do something totally irresponsible. I’m going to repeat the advice I gave above because this I have learned the hard way. Most men are going to do something irresponsible but it’s not to say that you boyfriend is going to. Just trust in your love and your relationship. There is no use in stressing about the inevitable. You can stretch the timeline but not the outcome. Even though you feel like this event is crushing you – you have to let him have his fun because when you guys fight or even break up then this event is going to get thrown in your face. You cannot change a man and you cannot cage a man. You just have to put up with this kind of behaviour if you want to keep him. When you keep a man on a short leash he is going to try and break free. If you are going to keep him on a short leash you are going to get a kick under the ass. Most men have their own interests at your not their partners’. Just hope for the best and keep hoping. Hoping and wishing has never been a crime.
Q: My boyfriend won’t leave his drugs for me. I am at my wits end. I need to know what to do.
A: You have to choose. Do you want to leave him or are you going to accept him using drugs. You cannot change him. If he does not want to change, take yourself out of the situation because you don’t need him. If he does not want to leave the drugs for you and you mean that little to him then move on. It might not feel as if you can but you came into this world alone and you die alone so you don’t need him. If you have a child –do it for your child. Yes people are who they arte but people are also who they choose to be. Do what you can live with.
Q: My partner does not like the same music as I do.
A: Your partner does not need to like the same music as you do. You could actually respect each others taste in music and learn from each other. People are different – we are created this way.
Q: I’m pregnant; do I need to tell my partner or ex before I go for an abortion?
A: Oh most definitely. It takes two to create a baby why shouldn’t it take two to decide on abortion. It is his baby too you know.
Q: I think I’m gay, How do I tell my partner. I’m scared my partner won’t understand.
A: Your partner deserves to know the truth. Tell your partner in person not over the phone and do it in a calm environment. Say it as graceful as you can. Say it the way you would have wanted to hear it if you had to.
Q: My boyfriend wants to leave me. Do I trick him and get pregnant?
A: Hell no! That is a recipe for disaster. What happens if he doesn’t want it or cannot afford it? If he wants to leave you then it’s a ticket for you to move one. Don’t bring an innocent child into it.
Q: My boyfriend is cheating – what do I do?
A: First of all, get hard facts. Then confront him with it. Find out who he is cheating with and let them know who you are. Then try and found out what went wrong between the two of you.
Q: My boyfriend is always nasty to me, what is his problem and what can I do?
A: There could be a number of things wrong but I don’t think that him being nasty to you is right. He should have respect for you and your feelings.
Q: I’m going through a really difficult time and I’m trying to explain this to him but he just keeps on making nasty comments. I don’t know what to do I need your help.
A: First of all a partner is there to support you and wipe away the tears. Need I say more?
Q: My boyfriend doesn’t support me when I’m sad and all I want is him to comfort me. What am I to do?
A: It’s not what you can do; it’s about what he can’t. A partner should learn to do things they never did before. He should know to hold you when you are sad. There is nothing as terrible as being sad and having nobody to comfort you. Explain to him how you feel or leave him and find someone who will be a better partner. You can’t change people who don’t want to change.
Q: My girlfriend lives in a shithole; do I ask her to move in with me?
A: Just by the fact that you are asking this tells me that you care. If you both have the same standard or her standard are even higher than yours then why not. If your girlfriend is living in a bad place then she needs a hero – and who better than you to be the hero? Just make sure you know her well enough.
Q: My boyfriend knows that I’ll commit suicide if he leaves me. Now he is too scared too follow what he wants to do because he doesn’t want my suicide on his mind. What now?
A: By the fact that you are even so sure that you will do it tells me that you have thought about it a lot and have your plan completely worked out. You might even succeed but tell him that he doesn’t have to worry and reassure him in any way possible. If you commit suicide he wont even know because how is he going to find out?
Q: My partner wants to take ballroom dancing lessons and I don’t want my partner to because I’m a jealous person.
A: Don’t wear your heart and your sleeve for too long. Take the lessons with your partner. This might be your partners dream please be considerate and see help for your jealousy. Speak to a professional about your jealousy and possessiveness.
Q: I want my girlfriend to wear lingerie.
A: You do know she cannot read mind don’t you? You have to speak to her and mention it. If she seems to be okay with it, well, then buy her lingerie as a surprise present. Check if she’ll wear it. Communication is the key.
Q: I want to wear lingerie for my boyfriend but he already had girlfriends that wore lingerie for him. How do I beat that?
A: it not for you to beat it. So what, girls wore lingerie for him. Ten to one it’s not like it seems. Get a sexy number that suits your figure and that’s more you. It doesn’t mean that because he had women wearing sexy pieces for him that he won’t appreciate you wearing it for him. It will still turn him on and you will still look sexy for him. Don’t wear yourself down wit these worries. Concentrate on your relationship not his past.
Q: What is the average age for starting periods?
A: It could start around 12 – 13 years of age or maybe even as late as 16 or 17. Every person is different and start around different ages. There are girls as young as 9 staring their periods.
Q: I want to take my girlfriend away from a very bad place she is staying in but I’m too scared because I previously had a bad experience with that. Do I ask her or am I right to be weary?
A: This is your girlfriend we are talking about. She is staying in a place which I’m sure you don’t even approve of as something she should call home because home is where the heart is. Previous issues have nothing to do with the future and that is what you have to drill into your mind. If you do not take the chance then you will never know what could have happened. Your girlfriend needs a hero round about now and do you know how much that could mean to her that you gave her a place of safety and love? Imagine having a girlfriend who tells you that you are her hero.
Q: My girlfriend keeps crying – I wish she would just stop sopping about everything. Am I wrong for wanting this?
A: And when you are sad? When you are ill? Don’t you think she would comfort you or rather help you than to tell you to shut up? She is sad. Comfort her. I’m sure she’s sad for a reason. Be a real man and support and nurture her because she needs you.
Q: My boyfriend feels more sorry for me than he loves me. Is this something I want to live with?
A: Let me start off by saying that girlfriends should act tough even if they are dying inside. Don’t let a man ever see your vulnerable side. Cry but cry alone. Once they see the tears you practically give them a one way ticket. Men don’t want to see their chicks cry about everything. Things that happened in your past should stay in the past. Do not and I repeat do not tell them about exes, rape or family issues. We all say that in relationships your boyfriend should support you etc but let’s face reality. If you had a bad life he is going to feel sorry for you and feel obligated not to leave you. It is also unfair towards him to only want to stay with you because he doesn’t think you could handle a breakup.
Q: My man is a drug addict and wants me to accept it. What now?
A: Men say they will love you more if you accept their snags and gags like them being drug-addicts, do not believe it. Somebody can't love you more because you let them do drugs. If he won’t change then leave. You owe it to yourself.
Q: Every time my dad buys me something my mom demands the same thing, from clothes to body deodorant. This is driving me crazy because for once I want to receive something, alone. Please help.
A: This can be so frustrating and seem like something stupid but something stupid like this has such a big impact on your feelings. There is not much you can do because talking to your mom won’t solve the problem. Just grin and bear it and don’t involve yourself.
Q: I want to be cool at school; I don’t want to be the nurde anymore.
A: Either you are cool or you aren’t. You are worrying about school – you have your whole life ahead of you. Why would you worry about what children think? I know, I know you want tips on how to be cool – so here they are: Walk up straight, don’t slouch, speak clearly and in a confident voice – do not whisper, get the latest tunes, get the latest fashion magazine, buy new clothes that is in season, its all about hair, fashion, nails and things you do. Hang out with the right crowd that will make you look cool.
Q: My partner was raped, what do I do now?
A: This is probably going to be the hardest time of your partners life and what happened is going to hurt like hell for the both of you but you need to be strong for your partner. Tips on how to deal with it: Be sympathetic and acknowledge your partners pain. Your partner might be distant – remember it is not your fault. Give support where you can. Keep in mind that the rape isn’t your fault either. Try to get your partner to get out – your partner needs to get it off his/her mind. Show your partner that you are there to protect him/her. Give him/her brochures to read about rape. Let him/her know that she/he could either be a rape victim or a rape survivor and to be a rape survivor is the best. If the rapist identity is known – encourage him/her to report it. If you do report it be prepared for a great battle but it will be rewarding in the end and bring closure. Show her that you are trustworthy and there to help. Look out for signs of depression – if it gets out of hand seek help for the both of you.
Q: What does one do if you catch your boyfriend in the act? (in bed with someone else)
A: You might want to commit murder when you catch them in the act but there are easier things to do: Politely tell them to go on you are just quickly going to pack your things. Go sit on the bed and ask them what sick people are they. Ask your partner did he/she really think you wouldn’t find out. Ask your partner what drove him/her to cheating. Stay calm – don’t reach for any sharp objects, talk things out.
Q: Can you please give me some flirting tips?
A: Women are so much more subtle about flirting clues that men need to really pay attention. Ladies, men are not used to women flirting with them. An overwhelming majority of men said they would just love it if a woman would talk to them first or at least express a larger clue that you were interested in checking them out. Repeated contact...at least three separate verbal or non-verbal clues need to be given. Why? The first time he's going to look around and make sure it's really him that you are flirting with. The second, he knows it's him and he gets flushed and pleased. (At this point he'll probably walk by you and at least smile…he's checking you out a little more.) The third time you can express interest-by introducing yourself, or commenting on his tie, or waving from across the room. Now he knows you are open to meeting and it will be a cinch. Whisper...it always gets their attention. Ask them if you can tell them a secret...Then whisper in their ear: 'I just love your tie...can I buy it from you when you are done with it?' Don't sit with other women...men don't want you to reject them in front of an audience. If you do go out with a friend...separate every so often or take a breather from talking...men do not want to risk your disapproval by interrupting you. (You have already missed out on a lot of quality polite men who didn't want to interrupt.) Treat men gently...If someone you are not interested in approaches you and flirts ...be nice.... All the other men are watching to see what you do. If you laugh after he leaves or show visual disapproval, you are cutting your chances on anyone else approaching you. Try shaking his hand and saying something like: 'It was so nice of you to approach me...what's your name? Tom? Tom, I know how hard it is to meet people...I might have a girlfriend who would be interested in you.' IF he acts like a JERK! Be polite but firm. Hand him a copy of the men's version of 'Flirting with Greatness' and ask him to go practice on someone else. Firmly say that 'lines' with sexual overtones are not only not attractive to you but to most other women in the world. Use the Buddy system. Walk through a group of men and have someone watch to see who's checking you out. Become More Irresistible! Show a little leg....wear higher heels...the redder the lipstick the more available and noticeable you will be. Arch your back a little as you sit up tall and cross your legs high. Wear earrings that are interesting enough to make someone comment on them. Look over your shoulder...and smile at him. This asymmetrical position is always a signal you are interested. Give him a look all over from head to toe - nod with approval and then smile. Keep in mind that flirting is a way of connecting from the heart and acknowledging someone.
Q: My girlfriend suffers from anorexia/bulimia (eating disorder), I’m at my wits end. I don’t want her to be ill or die. I’m pleading for help.
A: Let me thank you for standing by your girlfriend. You need so much praise for being there for her and asking for help. I do need to tell you that this article can give you guidelines but you need much much more help than reading this. You need to tell her how you feel and that you want to help her. You need to get her to a doctor to get her weighed and have a full body checkup for any side-effects the anorexia/bulimia had. She also needs a psychologist or psychiatrist ASAP.
Q: What is bulimia and the side-effects?
A: Bulimia is when a male/female binges and purges i.o.w, eats and puts their finger down their throat to puke. The side effects to name a few are: heart complications from puking. Most people who are bulimic wont be as under weight as people with anorexia.
Q: What is anorexia and the ruthless side effects?
A: Anorexia is when the male/female refuses to eat or only eats too small portions than they should. The side-effects are: hair loss, hair growing on stomach to keep the body warm because there is no fat, periods for females to disappear, breaking of bones, osteoporoses in old age, just to name a few.
Q: How can I get ways to keep healthy?
A: Set realistic targets and tackle one area of weakness at a time. Eat a more balanced diet and maintain a healthy weight. If you are overweight or underweight it takes a big toile on your health and heart. Keep your alcohol intake within government-prescribed safe limits. If you smoke, look at ways to stop. Take more exercise. The human body needs to keep fit. Visit the doctor if you have a persistent health problem. Better safe than sorry. Consider how you might cultivate better ways to cope with stress. Stress has never ever been good for anybody’s health though we have it every day of our life.
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